Search and Reunion

About Reunited Dan

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  • Age: Yes
  • Gender: Male
  • Zodiac Year: Ox
  • Industry: Yes
  • Location: New England : United States

9 Comments

9 responses so far ↓

  • Beth // October 7, 2007 at 5:44 pm | Reply

    Hi Dan,

    I am a reunited adoptee originally from Louisiana, now living in Colorado. Your blog is an interesting read. I found my birth-mother on the Internet in 2005. I managed this with mostly luck and my website… http://www.protestanthomeforbabies.com/ . I try to help people reunite or at least direct them on how to start. I remember how confusing the whole process is!

    I think your thoughts reflect a lot of what people think and feel when going through the reuniting process. And it’s hard to find someone you know that understands. The Internet helps to bring people together!

    Have you heard about Anne Fessler? She has written a book based on many oral recordings she has collected from birth-mothers. She has a “visual art” installation of these recordings. I heard part of it at an adoption conference. It is very helpful in understanding the adoption process from the birth-mother’s view.

    Have a listen to some here…
    http://www.theconnection.org/shows/2003/08/20030805_b_main.asp

    Beth

  • Beth // October 7, 2007 at 5:45 pm | Reply

    Did you get my comment? It said there was an ERROR.

  • Reunited Dan // October 7, 2007 at 6:40 pm | Reply

    I did get them and thanks! WordPress thought it was spam for some reason.

  • Denise Roessle // February 12, 2008 at 11:29 pm | Reply

    Hi Dan,

    I’m writing to ask for your help gathering input for an article I’m hoping to write about the impact of reunion on spouses and siblings. I started this project last fall and got little input. But a recent comment to my post spurred me to get back on it: Reunion Impacts

    There’s lots of talk, lots of information, about how reunion impacts the natural parents and their grown children. But little said about how reunion affects the spouses (of both parties) and siblings. I want to hear from anyone with something to share on this topic:

    As a birth parent, how did your spouse react to your reunion? What were the impacts on your spouse and/or your other children? What about your relationship with your parents and other family members?

    As an adoptee, how did your reunion affect your spouse and children? Your adopted siblings? What is your relationship with your natural siblings?

    Perhaps there are also adoptive parents out there for whom reunion had an impact on their marriages.

    People can respond with comments on my blog or by emailing me at: Denise

    Thanks and best regards,

    Denise
    Second-Chance Mother

  • LJ Jones // January 7, 2009 at 2:41 pm | Reply

    Dan,

    My name is LJ Jones and I work for a company called Identigene. We have started a website called http://mystoryrelated.com to allow people to share their stories about the ancestral connections and relationships that make them who they are. You have a very interesting story and I would love to share it with the readers of our blog. If you are interested in sharing your story, would you please email me at stories at mystoryrelated.com. Thanks

  • Stacey Tenenbaum // May 6, 2009 at 3:37 pm | Reply

    Hello Dan,

    I am working on a new documentary television series called My Last 24.

    The show is in production for the Oprah Winfrey Network.

    The idea behind the series to film people in the midst of major life changes, right up to the 24 hours before
    the change.

    We are hoping to produce an episode featuring somebody about to have a reunion with their birth parent or relinquished child in late June or July of this year. I was wondering if you would be able to help me find the right person for the series.

    The aim of the series is not to exploit or sensationalize the topic. We would like to provide an in depth view of what is involved in the search process (including difficulties getting birth records and information) as well as the emotional ups and downs along the way to an actual reunion. We would also like to follow up with the person after the reunion to see how the relationship has evolved since the initial meeting.

    I understand this is an incredibly emotional and personal journey, and that it will take a special person to agree to be filmed during the process, but am hoping I will be able to find that person since I believe it is an important story to tell.

    On a personal note, my mother was reunited with her birth mother and 8 half brothers and sisters when she was 19 years old, and my aunt also had a reunion with the son she relinquished when she was a teen. I am sympathetic to those who search and am in support of open adoption records.

    Any help or advice you could offer would be greatly appreciated. Please feel free to forward my contact
    information to anybody you believe may be of assistance.

    I look forward to hearing from you soon.

    Best,

    Stacey Tenenbaum
    Galafilm Productions
    http://www.galafilm.com

  • blueyesw // May 12, 2009 at 12:25 pm | Reply

    Dan,
    I stumbled on to your site yesterday, and finished up reading it today.
    It actually made me finally start my own blog, which i should have done weeks ago.. i am horrible with journeling but much better with typing online.. go figure.
    While it is almost a month since my bmom and i have been emailing and iming.. we have yet to talk on the phone or meet.. I am a secret and she is scared to death to reveal me, her secret luv, as she calls me.
    Its kind of sad because i have 2 brothers out there and i would love the chance to know them. For now i wait and work on the foundation of the relationship with my bmom. Thanks for your blog.. its been an experience traveling down your road.. I was actually adopted out of Boston, grew up in Natick, My brother lives in NH.. and my parents on the cape, so i can totally identify with your traveling.. and when i go to Boston, i experience the same feelings as when you travel home and see the lights! something about that Prudential building that just reminds me i am a Bostonian! and I am proud to be a MASS-HOLE! lol
    thanks again for the sharing!
    Pam

  • Rhonda // September 13, 2009 at 2:50 pm | Reply

    Long story short; my mother became pregnant with me while married to another man, it was not a good marriage and they were seperated at the time. I’ve always known that my dad was not my biological father, but recently found out that the man I thought was my biological father is in fact, not. I’ve reached the age that I’m seeking medical history, and admit to curosity of wanting to know my biological ties. I know very little about my biological father, I know his name, that he was in the navy and believe I know the area he was raised. Other than searching the internet, can you suggest other ways to search for him, since he is not listed on my birth certificate or adoption papers? Any advice at this point would be appreciated.

  • Reunited Dan // September 16, 2009 at 5:11 am | Reply

    Hi Pam and Rhonda,

    I apologize for not checking in here more often and missing your comments!

    Pam- good luck with the blog! I can’t wait to read it…

    Rhonda- I am wondering if you could travel to where you biological father grew up. I had good luck with high school year books and his buddies were able to really give me insight to his mindset. etc. back when I was born…

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