Update on Biological Sister.

I am finally going to meet my paternal half sister in a couple of weeks! She is 8 months younger than me and has a lot of ill feelings towards our biological father. She has a rollercoaster ride of issues and has recently decided that these were all the result of him.

My paternal half brother (her brother) recently surprised me. He and his family are coming to visit the Boston area during the December vacation week and he wants to have a big get together with all of us. A family (?) reunion of sorts. He has rented a lodge in New Hampshire and we are all staying up there. I am thrilled they are coming since I had such a great time meeting them in Texas.

This past weekend I met my b-mom and her husband for lunch. My b-aunt and her husband came along and we had a great time. They brought me a 17 pound fresh turkey for Thanksgiving. Fortunately, it wasn’t still alive! You never know with these folks. I can’t help feeling sad for B. and her husband since this will be the first holiday since their son D. passed away.  During the lunch, I kept sneaking sideways glances at her husband and there is just such sadness . It just envelopes him. He lost his baby boy. His pride and joy.

Life is so short. I hope this year is “the year” for all the waiting moms, dads, adoptees and siblings out there. If we all concentrate real hard and ask kimkim’s universe…..maybe it will happen for all!

I have two weeks till I can legally obtain my un-amended birth certificate although it seems somewhat anti-climatic at this point. I will get it though just because I can!

kim.kim and Blogging Vacations.

I have been noticing more and more bloggers who hit the wall. I was reading kim.kim and I couldn’t help identifying with her saying it felt organic to stop posting on her blog. While I am at the stage where I can refresh by taking a week off, I can see where it gets more and more difficult to keep it interesting and fresh.

I started blogging as a way to journal my search and reunion experience. As I stumbled through reunion and beyond, it was easy to come up with subject matter. As my relationship with my birth mother moves into a more comfortable fit, I find myself racking my brains to come up with something that will be useful. At some point, no matter what angle you look at it from…an apple is just an apple.

Life is full of changes. Endings and new beginnings. I can’t help feeling happy for kim.kim and her saying it felt organic was the key for me. It feels right to her. There is an excitement in her writing about what the future and the universe holds for her. She has been reunited with her daughter and it is a new beginning.

kim.kim’s blog gave birth to the adoption blogging world. She raised it and nutured it. I think in a gentle sense, she is nudging the adoption world “out of the nest” to fly on its own. She has done more than her fair share.

I think I speak for all when I say I wish the very best for her. I know I will be adding the frivolous blog to my list.